My daughter turns 16 today. Had a hard time getting out of bed b/c a grief wave hit me; my sister would have sent her a ton of emojis and celebratory all-caps texts by now.
E came over for 2 weeks after F was born to do all the things a grandma would have done after a grandchild is born. (Our mom was growing frail by then and, we learned later, in the early stages of dementia.) E adored her niece.
I hate when the grief waves hit like this.